What is ethical non-monogamy?

Ethical non-monogamy covers the whole spectrum of relationships outside of monogamy, when it is open and honest. Ethical non-monogamy is not cheating, it is the consensual decision of all people in a particular relationship to be non-exclusive, in whatever form is appropriate for them.

What is polyamory?

Polyamory can be defined in many different ways, but some of the common elements in polyamorous relationships include: love, intimacy, commitment, honesty, communication, vulnerability all in the context of non-exclusivity.

Have a look at our blog post or find out more about what polyamory can be for different people try reading these resources and listening to these podcasts:

·  Books:

 The Ethical Slut: A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships and other adventures in sex and love by Janet Hardy

o   Love’s not color blind: Race, representation in polyamorous and other alternative communities by Kevin A. Patterson

·  Podcasts:

 Polyamory Weekly

 Normalizing non-monogamy

·  Blogs

 The Polyamory School


What is PolyFinda?
PolyFinda is a polyamorous dating community that supports ethically non-monogamous people. PolyFinda is the best polyamory dating app for the openly poly and curious; it’s also a series of safe and judgement-free events where people are empowered to explore ethical non-monogamy.
Who is PolyFinda for?

PolyFinda was built for you, the polyamorous community by members of the community. We want to help you stay connected, flirt, find new friends and chat online. More than that, both online and at events, PolyFinda helps people that are new to the scene make those important initial connections.

Explore relationships, love and desire with like-minded and open people, on our tailor made app that caters for:

  • A diverse range of relationship preferences (you’ll see what we mean!)
  • Inclusive identity options
  • Everyone to be transparent from the start with more poly specific options
  • Find open and poly-friendly events in your area.
Where can I find out more about the gender identities on the app?

If you are  new to the alternative relationship community and not aware of what the many different and evolving terms for different identities and relationships mean, that’s perfectly okay!  If you aren’t sure what the difference between cis gender, questioning, non-binary and gender fluid are, we highly recommend having a look at this comprehensive glossary to help navigate the terms. 

·  The Trevor Project

Language and terminology is very important to understanding people you will meet on the app and at events.

We also strongly recommend being open to new ideas and identities, and wholeheartedly endorse making friends with open and poly people of all different identities!

Is PolyFinda a swingers dating app?

Swingers are definitely welcome on PolyFinda. Our membership is not exclusively for any one group, but for anyone who understands that relationships don’t have to be constrained by the rules of monogamy. They agree that there is beauty in opening up to possibilities in an honest and ethical way with your partners. Other sites may define this differently but for PolyFinda, swinging is just one way of opening up a relationship.

The PolyFinda app allows people to explore their evolving identities, desires and relationship preferences, while knowing that other members of the app embrace it too. Here you will find ethical people that can have wonderful relationships with more than one, two, or….how ever many they please.

If you identify as a swinger and are looking for more swingers to date, make sure you have the right options selected in your “Looking for” search filter.

Where can I find a unicorn?

A ‘unicorn’ is the name some have given to single women who are interested in dating or being in a relationship with an established couple. They are called unicorns because there are many more couples searching for single women then there are single women looking for couples – making some think they are mythological beings…but they are out there.

As a couple looking for a unicorn remember to be aware of the existing relationship power dynamics that can come into play when you invite a single person into your relationship(s). Remember to keep the communication (always) open so that you’re all on the same page regarding boundaries and expectations. Keep talking it through as things inevitably change, and feelings evolve.

Increase your chances of meeting a unicorn by combining online dating with face to face events (when it’s COVID-safe!). Join polyamorous speed dating, community bar events, and online activities to find likeminded people. The PolyFinda app can help you find these in our Events tab. No events in your area? You can earn credits by posting your own event!

Another tip to finding who you are looking for is to think laterally with your online searches. There are many people in existing relationships looking to join a new couple. Ensure your settings allow for you to find all the people you and your current partner(s) will connect with (i.e. don’t narrow your search too much).